Word/phrase/idiom for 'taking flak' (any kind to any degree) from people who can't handle part of a task (a...
Sometimes, people are not up for the task to which they've committed themselves. That is, they have a problem handling a part of it, for whatever reason. Instead of admitting that, they respond by attempting to trivialize that part, even though it's a basic part of the task at hand (based on mutual/common knowledge).
Example #1:
Situation: Committing to picking up a mother and her newborn from the hospital but forgetting to bring the infant car seat.
Mutual/common knowledge: Child safety seat law (enforced for child safety).
Response: Attempting to trivialize the law itself and the mother's concerns instead of just retrieving the car seat (or sending someone to fetch it).
Example #2:
Situation: Bringing up "no nut products allowed" while discussing school snack rotation with other parents.
Mutual/common knowledge: 1. Known allergies to nuts. 2. Some kids share snacks whether they're allowed to or not.
Responses: From tuning out, frowning, scoffing...to theorizing that allergies are a myth (concocted by Big Pharma) versus just agreeing to buy or require nut-free snacks.
Question:
What is a word/phrase/idiom for being subjected to those type of responses during similar situations?
When I reminded her about the car seat, she just _____ me.
The parent who brought up the no-nut thing was _____ by some of the
others.
Thanks for any suggestions.
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Sometimes, people are not up for the task to which they've committed themselves. That is, they have a problem handling a part of it, for whatever reason. Instead of admitting that, they respond by attempting to trivialize that part, even though it's a basic part of the task at hand (based on mutual/common knowledge).
Example #1:
Situation: Committing to picking up a mother and her newborn from the hospital but forgetting to bring the infant car seat.
Mutual/common knowledge: Child safety seat law (enforced for child safety).
Response: Attempting to trivialize the law itself and the mother's concerns instead of just retrieving the car seat (or sending someone to fetch it).
Example #2:
Situation: Bringing up "no nut products allowed" while discussing school snack rotation with other parents.
Mutual/common knowledge: 1. Known allergies to nuts. 2. Some kids share snacks whether they're allowed to or not.
Responses: From tuning out, frowning, scoffing...to theorizing that allergies are a myth (concocted by Big Pharma) versus just agreeing to buy or require nut-free snacks.
Question:
What is a word/phrase/idiom for being subjected to those type of responses during similar situations?
When I reminded her about the car seat, she just _____ me.
The parent who brought up the no-nut thing was _____ by some of the
others.
Thanks for any suggestions.
single-word-requests phrase-requests idioms idiom-requests
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Got it. Let me think on this one. I'm from the 80's too. Not "dissed"?
– user22542
Mar 23 at 22:58
1
I think the situation is clear, but what to call things naturally in the best way is not clear. You're trying to describe the (now) grandmother, how she is not understanding the situation well because she is strangely not that empathetic with the mother, and she is disregarding what the birth mom is saying because the gm doesn't know the new (at least 25 years old!) laws. Not an answer at all, but that situation is exasperating. I think 'can't handle everyday details well' is not what you are really looking after though. That would be ... um... dementia.
– Mitch
2 days ago
1
"My mother just rode roughshod over me." I don't have kids but my mother was exactly like yours. A real pain in the patootie [my word, I think] and blithely unaware of others' mental states.
– Lambie
yesterday
@Lambie patootie - 1 (dated) A girlfriend or a pretty girl. 2 A person's or animal's buttocks.
– Mitch
yesterday
1
Excellent redraft. The question is clear now.
– Lawrence
23 hours ago
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Sometimes, people are not up for the task to which they've committed themselves. That is, they have a problem handling a part of it, for whatever reason. Instead of admitting that, they respond by attempting to trivialize that part, even though it's a basic part of the task at hand (based on mutual/common knowledge).
Example #1:
Situation: Committing to picking up a mother and her newborn from the hospital but forgetting to bring the infant car seat.
Mutual/common knowledge: Child safety seat law (enforced for child safety).
Response: Attempting to trivialize the law itself and the mother's concerns instead of just retrieving the car seat (or sending someone to fetch it).
Example #2:
Situation: Bringing up "no nut products allowed" while discussing school snack rotation with other parents.
Mutual/common knowledge: 1. Known allergies to nuts. 2. Some kids share snacks whether they're allowed to or not.
Responses: From tuning out, frowning, scoffing...to theorizing that allergies are a myth (concocted by Big Pharma) versus just agreeing to buy or require nut-free snacks.
Question:
What is a word/phrase/idiom for being subjected to those type of responses during similar situations?
When I reminded her about the car seat, she just _____ me.
The parent who brought up the no-nut thing was _____ by some of the
others.
Thanks for any suggestions.
single-word-requests phrase-requests idioms idiom-requests
Sometimes, people are not up for the task to which they've committed themselves. That is, they have a problem handling a part of it, for whatever reason. Instead of admitting that, they respond by attempting to trivialize that part, even though it's a basic part of the task at hand (based on mutual/common knowledge).
Example #1:
Situation: Committing to picking up a mother and her newborn from the hospital but forgetting to bring the infant car seat.
Mutual/common knowledge: Child safety seat law (enforced for child safety).
Response: Attempting to trivialize the law itself and the mother's concerns instead of just retrieving the car seat (or sending someone to fetch it).
Example #2:
Situation: Bringing up "no nut products allowed" while discussing school snack rotation with other parents.
Mutual/common knowledge: 1. Known allergies to nuts. 2. Some kids share snacks whether they're allowed to or not.
Responses: From tuning out, frowning, scoffing...to theorizing that allergies are a myth (concocted by Big Pharma) versus just agreeing to buy or require nut-free snacks.
Question:
What is a word/phrase/idiom for being subjected to those type of responses during similar situations?
When I reminded her about the car seat, she just _____ me.
The parent who brought up the no-nut thing was _____ by some of the
others.
Thanks for any suggestions.
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single-word-requests phrase-requests idioms idiom-requests
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Got it. Let me think on this one. I'm from the 80's too. Not "dissed"?
– user22542
Mar 23 at 22:58
1
I think the situation is clear, but what to call things naturally in the best way is not clear. You're trying to describe the (now) grandmother, how she is not understanding the situation well because she is strangely not that empathetic with the mother, and she is disregarding what the birth mom is saying because the gm doesn't know the new (at least 25 years old!) laws. Not an answer at all, but that situation is exasperating. I think 'can't handle everyday details well' is not what you are really looking after though. That would be ... um... dementia.
– Mitch
2 days ago
1
"My mother just rode roughshod over me." I don't have kids but my mother was exactly like yours. A real pain in the patootie [my word, I think] and blithely unaware of others' mental states.
– Lambie
yesterday
@Lambie patootie - 1 (dated) A girlfriend or a pretty girl. 2 A person's or animal's buttocks.
– Mitch
yesterday
1
Excellent redraft. The question is clear now.
– Lawrence
23 hours ago
add a comment |
1
Got it. Let me think on this one. I'm from the 80's too. Not "dissed"?
– user22542
Mar 23 at 22:58
1
I think the situation is clear, but what to call things naturally in the best way is not clear. You're trying to describe the (now) grandmother, how she is not understanding the situation well because she is strangely not that empathetic with the mother, and she is disregarding what the birth mom is saying because the gm doesn't know the new (at least 25 years old!) laws. Not an answer at all, but that situation is exasperating. I think 'can't handle everyday details well' is not what you are really looking after though. That would be ... um... dementia.
– Mitch
2 days ago
1
"My mother just rode roughshod over me." I don't have kids but my mother was exactly like yours. A real pain in the patootie [my word, I think] and blithely unaware of others' mental states.
– Lambie
yesterday
@Lambie patootie - 1 (dated) A girlfriend or a pretty girl. 2 A person's or animal's buttocks.
– Mitch
yesterday
1
Excellent redraft. The question is clear now.
– Lawrence
23 hours ago
1
1
Got it. Let me think on this one. I'm from the 80's too. Not "dissed"?
– user22542
Mar 23 at 22:58
Got it. Let me think on this one. I'm from the 80's too. Not "dissed"?
– user22542
Mar 23 at 22:58
1
1
I think the situation is clear, but what to call things naturally in the best way is not clear. You're trying to describe the (now) grandmother, how she is not understanding the situation well because she is strangely not that empathetic with the mother, and she is disregarding what the birth mom is saying because the gm doesn't know the new (at least 25 years old!) laws. Not an answer at all, but that situation is exasperating. I think 'can't handle everyday details well' is not what you are really looking after though. That would be ... um... dementia.
– Mitch
2 days ago
I think the situation is clear, but what to call things naturally in the best way is not clear. You're trying to describe the (now) grandmother, how she is not understanding the situation well because she is strangely not that empathetic with the mother, and she is disregarding what the birth mom is saying because the gm doesn't know the new (at least 25 years old!) laws. Not an answer at all, but that situation is exasperating. I think 'can't handle everyday details well' is not what you are really looking after though. That would be ... um... dementia.
– Mitch
2 days ago
1
1
"My mother just rode roughshod over me." I don't have kids but my mother was exactly like yours. A real pain in the patootie [my word, I think] and blithely unaware of others' mental states.
– Lambie
yesterday
"My mother just rode roughshod over me." I don't have kids but my mother was exactly like yours. A real pain in the patootie [my word, I think] and blithely unaware of others' mental states.
– Lambie
yesterday
@Lambie patootie - 1 (dated) A girlfriend or a pretty girl. 2 A person's or animal's buttocks.
– Mitch
yesterday
@Lambie patootie - 1 (dated) A girlfriend or a pretty girl. 2 A person's or animal's buttocks.
– Mitch
yesterday
1
1
Excellent redraft. The question is clear now.
– Lawrence
23 hours ago
Excellent redraft. The question is clear now.
– Lawrence
23 hours ago
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My mother just blew me off.
My mother just blew off bringing the car seat.
You done been blown off.
The verb phrase blow off can take an object immediately after blow (especially for pronouns or names) or after off (for noun phrases denoting tasks like work). According to the Oxford English Dictionary (in "blow, v.1") it means both disregarding someone else and shirking a job or duty:
transitive. to blow off:
(a) (now U.S. slang) to rebuff, to reject the advances of (a person); to ignore, disregard, dismiss;
(b) U.S. slang, to shirk or evade (a job or duty), to stay away from (school or work) without permission or good reason.
If you're British, you may have recourse to blow out, with similar valences:
- transitive. Chiefly British.
To let (a person) down or shut (a person) out; to rebuff, reject the advances of (a person). Also: to fail to keep (an appointment), esp. deliberately, to jilt; to shirk. Cf. earlier to blow off at Additions.
Blow off especially pertains to your situation because your mother has both disregarded your concerns and has shirked the task at hand. Blow out might pertain more if she missed the appointment entirely, rather than neglecting some part of meeting you.
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Thanks for offering some suggestion as to how you might want to use the word/phrase that you seek. Deriving the meaning from your detailed story and example sentence, I think your mother just "disregarded" you.
I have also attached the freethesaurus.com link using the same word. It offers several other clever and nuanced suggestions.
However, if you would like to use an idiom, she does seem to be thoughtlessly "putting you in your place". In her mind, you are still her "little one", so she just overrides you without thinking about it. It sounds like a habitual, thoughtless response to me. Hopefully these two suggestions will hone in on that ideal word or phrase that you can use for any similar situation that might still plague you from time to time.
There is one additional idiom that seems to fit your latest edits and examples. In every situation they seem to be "poo-pooing" your arguments/requests. It means to outright dismiss someone/something without any due consideration. This fits your examples now very well. Please consider it.
My mother just disregarded me.
My mother just put me in my place again.
When I reminded her about the car seat, she just "poo-pooed" me.
The parent who brought up the no-nut thing was "poo-pooed" by
some of the others.
https://www.thefreedictionary.com/disregard
https://www.freethesaurus.com/disregard
https://idioms.thefreedictionary.com/put+in+one%27s+place
https://idioms.thefreedictionary.com/poo-poo
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Have you checked the thesaurus link?
– user22542
Mar 24 at 8:36
Thanks for the new suggestion; it's a good one.
– KannE
23 hours ago
Did you realize that there is a form of straw man fallacy called a pooh-pooh (or poo-poo)? I had no idea. I just found this: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pooh-pooh. Not a great reference, but interesting.
– KannE
34 mins ago
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Guff[guhff]
noun Informal.
1) empty or foolish talk; nonsense.
2) insolent talk.
Source: Dictionary.com
———
Grief
noun
3) informal trouble or annoyance:
people were giving me grief for leaving ten minutes early
Source: Dictionary.com
———
The phrasing I would suggest would be:
When I reminded her about the car seat, she just gave me guff (grief).
The parent who brought up the no-nut thing was given grief (guff) by some of the others.
In my interpretation:
• guff implies the person doesn’t know what they are talking about.
• grief implies the person is affecting you.
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Ignore, perhaps?
My mother just ignored me.
Or other phrases with similar meaning -
pay no attention
take no notice
brush aside (my) concerns
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It's a bit like intimidation - you have a concern you think is legitimate, but they're trying to bully or browbeat you into submission.
Flout?
ARCHAIC
mock; scoff.
"the women pointed and flouted at her"
I quite like 'dismissed my concerns', though it doesn't roll off the tongue. I think 'diss' derives from 'disrespect'
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The problem is I don't think there's an English word for exactly this, because you said your mother thought you were being 'fussy' about this. It certainly was not such strong opposition to suggest 'flak' which would be far too strong.
Flak is like military shells (figuratively). Saying you were 'dissed' doesn't sound too 80sish to me, just not quite right. That's more like she put you down over it (not what happened). I think the closest you can get to it is something a lot milder, like 'she gave me a little heat about it'. But I wouldn’t say 'heat' alone, just 'a little heat'. It needs to be a word or phrase that suggests you were worrying unnecessarily about something, in her opinion.
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The mother was not being fussy. Fussy is what the mother implied about the daughter. OP wrote "your mother somehow implies that you are just being fussy."
– Trevor Reid
Mar 23 at 22:10
Correct. I edited the comment.
– John
Mar 23 at 22:12
Just FYI, I had to edit my question for clarity. I hope it's clearer now. Thank you.
– KannE
23 hours ago
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Consider dismiss.
dismiss
2 Treat as unworthy of serious consideration.
‘When I campaigned for Police Community Support Officers in 2000, as the Mayoral candidate for London, the idea was dismissed by my opponents.’
- ODO
In the context of the examples you raise, dismiss tends to apply more naturally to the ideas rather than the people. Dismissing the person is a lot more offensive than dismissing the idea, though in the second example below, it could be read as a metonymic dismissal of the idea.
- When I reminded her about the car seat, she just dismissed [it / the idea].
- The parent who brought up the no-nut thing was dismissed by some of the others.
To dismiss an idea is to consider it so trivial that it doesn't bear further discussion. You can say that someone's attitude was dismissive, or even that they were dismissive. To complain that you were dismissed often implies that you were offended by the dismissal.
When using dismiss to mean the setting aside of something trivial, it's usually pretty clear that the one doing the dismissing considers the thing to be trivial. Whether it actually was or wasn't trivial relies on the context.
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My mother just blew me off.
My mother just blew off bringing the car seat.
You done been blown off.
The verb phrase blow off can take an object immediately after blow (especially for pronouns or names) or after off (for noun phrases denoting tasks like work). According to the Oxford English Dictionary (in "blow, v.1") it means both disregarding someone else and shirking a job or duty:
transitive. to blow off:
(a) (now U.S. slang) to rebuff, to reject the advances of (a person); to ignore, disregard, dismiss;
(b) U.S. slang, to shirk or evade (a job or duty), to stay away from (school or work) without permission or good reason.
If you're British, you may have recourse to blow out, with similar valences:
- transitive. Chiefly British.
To let (a person) down or shut (a person) out; to rebuff, reject the advances of (a person). Also: to fail to keep (an appointment), esp. deliberately, to jilt; to shirk. Cf. earlier to blow off at Additions.
Blow off especially pertains to your situation because your mother has both disregarded your concerns and has shirked the task at hand. Blow out might pertain more if she missed the appointment entirely, rather than neglecting some part of meeting you.
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My mother just blew me off.
My mother just blew off bringing the car seat.
You done been blown off.
The verb phrase blow off can take an object immediately after blow (especially for pronouns or names) or after off (for noun phrases denoting tasks like work). According to the Oxford English Dictionary (in "blow, v.1") it means both disregarding someone else and shirking a job or duty:
transitive. to blow off:
(a) (now U.S. slang) to rebuff, to reject the advances of (a person); to ignore, disregard, dismiss;
(b) U.S. slang, to shirk or evade (a job or duty), to stay away from (school or work) without permission or good reason.
If you're British, you may have recourse to blow out, with similar valences:
- transitive. Chiefly British.
To let (a person) down or shut (a person) out; to rebuff, reject the advances of (a person). Also: to fail to keep (an appointment), esp. deliberately, to jilt; to shirk. Cf. earlier to blow off at Additions.
Blow off especially pertains to your situation because your mother has both disregarded your concerns and has shirked the task at hand. Blow out might pertain more if she missed the appointment entirely, rather than neglecting some part of meeting you.
add a comment |
My mother just blew me off.
My mother just blew off bringing the car seat.
You done been blown off.
The verb phrase blow off can take an object immediately after blow (especially for pronouns or names) or after off (for noun phrases denoting tasks like work). According to the Oxford English Dictionary (in "blow, v.1") it means both disregarding someone else and shirking a job or duty:
transitive. to blow off:
(a) (now U.S. slang) to rebuff, to reject the advances of (a person); to ignore, disregard, dismiss;
(b) U.S. slang, to shirk or evade (a job or duty), to stay away from (school or work) without permission or good reason.
If you're British, you may have recourse to blow out, with similar valences:
- transitive. Chiefly British.
To let (a person) down or shut (a person) out; to rebuff, reject the advances of (a person). Also: to fail to keep (an appointment), esp. deliberately, to jilt; to shirk. Cf. earlier to blow off at Additions.
Blow off especially pertains to your situation because your mother has both disregarded your concerns and has shirked the task at hand. Blow out might pertain more if she missed the appointment entirely, rather than neglecting some part of meeting you.
My mother just blew me off.
My mother just blew off bringing the car seat.
You done been blown off.
The verb phrase blow off can take an object immediately after blow (especially for pronouns or names) or after off (for noun phrases denoting tasks like work). According to the Oxford English Dictionary (in "blow, v.1") it means both disregarding someone else and shirking a job or duty:
transitive. to blow off:
(a) (now U.S. slang) to rebuff, to reject the advances of (a person); to ignore, disregard, dismiss;
(b) U.S. slang, to shirk or evade (a job or duty), to stay away from (school or work) without permission or good reason.
If you're British, you may have recourse to blow out, with similar valences:
- transitive. Chiefly British.
To let (a person) down or shut (a person) out; to rebuff, reject the advances of (a person). Also: to fail to keep (an appointment), esp. deliberately, to jilt; to shirk. Cf. earlier to blow off at Additions.
Blow off especially pertains to your situation because your mother has both disregarded your concerns and has shirked the task at hand. Blow out might pertain more if she missed the appointment entirely, rather than neglecting some part of meeting you.
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Thanks for offering some suggestion as to how you might want to use the word/phrase that you seek. Deriving the meaning from your detailed story and example sentence, I think your mother just "disregarded" you.
I have also attached the freethesaurus.com link using the same word. It offers several other clever and nuanced suggestions.
However, if you would like to use an idiom, she does seem to be thoughtlessly "putting you in your place". In her mind, you are still her "little one", so she just overrides you without thinking about it. It sounds like a habitual, thoughtless response to me. Hopefully these two suggestions will hone in on that ideal word or phrase that you can use for any similar situation that might still plague you from time to time.
There is one additional idiom that seems to fit your latest edits and examples. In every situation they seem to be "poo-pooing" your arguments/requests. It means to outright dismiss someone/something without any due consideration. This fits your examples now very well. Please consider it.
My mother just disregarded me.
My mother just put me in my place again.
When I reminded her about the car seat, she just "poo-pooed" me.
The parent who brought up the no-nut thing was "poo-pooed" by
some of the others.
https://www.thefreedictionary.com/disregard
https://www.freethesaurus.com/disregard
https://idioms.thefreedictionary.com/put+in+one%27s+place
https://idioms.thefreedictionary.com/poo-poo
1
Have you checked the thesaurus link?
– user22542
Mar 24 at 8:36
Thanks for the new suggestion; it's a good one.
– KannE
23 hours ago
Did you realize that there is a form of straw man fallacy called a pooh-pooh (or poo-poo)? I had no idea. I just found this: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pooh-pooh. Not a great reference, but interesting.
– KannE
34 mins ago
add a comment |
Thanks for offering some suggestion as to how you might want to use the word/phrase that you seek. Deriving the meaning from your detailed story and example sentence, I think your mother just "disregarded" you.
I have also attached the freethesaurus.com link using the same word. It offers several other clever and nuanced suggestions.
However, if you would like to use an idiom, she does seem to be thoughtlessly "putting you in your place". In her mind, you are still her "little one", so she just overrides you without thinking about it. It sounds like a habitual, thoughtless response to me. Hopefully these two suggestions will hone in on that ideal word or phrase that you can use for any similar situation that might still plague you from time to time.
There is one additional idiom that seems to fit your latest edits and examples. In every situation they seem to be "poo-pooing" your arguments/requests. It means to outright dismiss someone/something without any due consideration. This fits your examples now very well. Please consider it.
My mother just disregarded me.
My mother just put me in my place again.
When I reminded her about the car seat, she just "poo-pooed" me.
The parent who brought up the no-nut thing was "poo-pooed" by
some of the others.
https://www.thefreedictionary.com/disregard
https://www.freethesaurus.com/disregard
https://idioms.thefreedictionary.com/put+in+one%27s+place
https://idioms.thefreedictionary.com/poo-poo
1
Have you checked the thesaurus link?
– user22542
Mar 24 at 8:36
Thanks for the new suggestion; it's a good one.
– KannE
23 hours ago
Did you realize that there is a form of straw man fallacy called a pooh-pooh (or poo-poo)? I had no idea. I just found this: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pooh-pooh. Not a great reference, but interesting.
– KannE
34 mins ago
add a comment |
Thanks for offering some suggestion as to how you might want to use the word/phrase that you seek. Deriving the meaning from your detailed story and example sentence, I think your mother just "disregarded" you.
I have also attached the freethesaurus.com link using the same word. It offers several other clever and nuanced suggestions.
However, if you would like to use an idiom, she does seem to be thoughtlessly "putting you in your place". In her mind, you are still her "little one", so she just overrides you without thinking about it. It sounds like a habitual, thoughtless response to me. Hopefully these two suggestions will hone in on that ideal word or phrase that you can use for any similar situation that might still plague you from time to time.
There is one additional idiom that seems to fit your latest edits and examples. In every situation they seem to be "poo-pooing" your arguments/requests. It means to outright dismiss someone/something without any due consideration. This fits your examples now very well. Please consider it.
My mother just disregarded me.
My mother just put me in my place again.
When I reminded her about the car seat, she just "poo-pooed" me.
The parent who brought up the no-nut thing was "poo-pooed" by
some of the others.
https://www.thefreedictionary.com/disregard
https://www.freethesaurus.com/disregard
https://idioms.thefreedictionary.com/put+in+one%27s+place
https://idioms.thefreedictionary.com/poo-poo
Thanks for offering some suggestion as to how you might want to use the word/phrase that you seek. Deriving the meaning from your detailed story and example sentence, I think your mother just "disregarded" you.
I have also attached the freethesaurus.com link using the same word. It offers several other clever and nuanced suggestions.
However, if you would like to use an idiom, she does seem to be thoughtlessly "putting you in your place". In her mind, you are still her "little one", so she just overrides you without thinking about it. It sounds like a habitual, thoughtless response to me. Hopefully these two suggestions will hone in on that ideal word or phrase that you can use for any similar situation that might still plague you from time to time.
There is one additional idiom that seems to fit your latest edits and examples. In every situation they seem to be "poo-pooing" your arguments/requests. It means to outright dismiss someone/something without any due consideration. This fits your examples now very well. Please consider it.
My mother just disregarded me.
My mother just put me in my place again.
When I reminded her about the car seat, she just "poo-pooed" me.
The parent who brought up the no-nut thing was "poo-pooed" by
some of the others.
https://www.thefreedictionary.com/disregard
https://www.freethesaurus.com/disregard
https://idioms.thefreedictionary.com/put+in+one%27s+place
https://idioms.thefreedictionary.com/poo-poo
edited 4 hours ago
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Have you checked the thesaurus link?
– user22542
Mar 24 at 8:36
Thanks for the new suggestion; it's a good one.
– KannE
23 hours ago
Did you realize that there is a form of straw man fallacy called a pooh-pooh (or poo-poo)? I had no idea. I just found this: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pooh-pooh. Not a great reference, but interesting.
– KannE
34 mins ago
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Have you checked the thesaurus link?
– user22542
Mar 24 at 8:36
Thanks for the new suggestion; it's a good one.
– KannE
23 hours ago
Did you realize that there is a form of straw man fallacy called a pooh-pooh (or poo-poo)? I had no idea. I just found this: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pooh-pooh. Not a great reference, but interesting.
– KannE
34 mins ago
1
1
Have you checked the thesaurus link?
– user22542
Mar 24 at 8:36
Have you checked the thesaurus link?
– user22542
Mar 24 at 8:36
Thanks for the new suggestion; it's a good one.
– KannE
23 hours ago
Thanks for the new suggestion; it's a good one.
– KannE
23 hours ago
Did you realize that there is a form of straw man fallacy called a pooh-pooh (or poo-poo)? I had no idea. I just found this: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pooh-pooh. Not a great reference, but interesting.
– KannE
34 mins ago
Did you realize that there is a form of straw man fallacy called a pooh-pooh (or poo-poo)? I had no idea. I just found this: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pooh-pooh. Not a great reference, but interesting.
– KannE
34 mins ago
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Guff[guhff]
noun Informal.
1) empty or foolish talk; nonsense.
2) insolent talk.
Source: Dictionary.com
———
Grief
noun
3) informal trouble or annoyance:
people were giving me grief for leaving ten minutes early
Source: Dictionary.com
———
The phrasing I would suggest would be:
When I reminded her about the car seat, she just gave me guff (grief).
The parent who brought up the no-nut thing was given grief (guff) by some of the others.
In my interpretation:
• guff implies the person doesn’t know what they are talking about.
• grief implies the person is affecting you.
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Guff[guhff]
noun Informal.
1) empty or foolish talk; nonsense.
2) insolent talk.
Source: Dictionary.com
———
Grief
noun
3) informal trouble or annoyance:
people were giving me grief for leaving ten minutes early
Source: Dictionary.com
———
The phrasing I would suggest would be:
When I reminded her about the car seat, she just gave me guff (grief).
The parent who brought up the no-nut thing was given grief (guff) by some of the others.
In my interpretation:
• guff implies the person doesn’t know what they are talking about.
• grief implies the person is affecting you.
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Guff[guhff]
noun Informal.
1) empty or foolish talk; nonsense.
2) insolent talk.
Source: Dictionary.com
———
Grief
noun
3) informal trouble or annoyance:
people were giving me grief for leaving ten minutes early
Source: Dictionary.com
———
The phrasing I would suggest would be:
When I reminded her about the car seat, she just gave me guff (grief).
The parent who brought up the no-nut thing was given grief (guff) by some of the others.
In my interpretation:
• guff implies the person doesn’t know what they are talking about.
• grief implies the person is affecting you.
Guff[guhff]
noun Informal.
1) empty or foolish talk; nonsense.
2) insolent talk.
Source: Dictionary.com
———
Grief
noun
3) informal trouble or annoyance:
people were giving me grief for leaving ten minutes early
Source: Dictionary.com
———
The phrasing I would suggest would be:
When I reminded her about the car seat, she just gave me guff (grief).
The parent who brought up the no-nut thing was given grief (guff) by some of the others.
In my interpretation:
• guff implies the person doesn’t know what they are talking about.
• grief implies the person is affecting you.
edited 7 hours ago
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Ignore, perhaps?
My mother just ignored me.
Or other phrases with similar meaning -
pay no attention
take no notice
brush aside (my) concerns
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Ignore, perhaps?
My mother just ignored me.
Or other phrases with similar meaning -
pay no attention
take no notice
brush aside (my) concerns
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Ignore, perhaps?
My mother just ignored me.
Or other phrases with similar meaning -
pay no attention
take no notice
brush aside (my) concerns
Ignore, perhaps?
My mother just ignored me.
Or other phrases with similar meaning -
pay no attention
take no notice
brush aside (my) concerns
answered Mar 24 at 4:06
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It's a bit like intimidation - you have a concern you think is legitimate, but they're trying to bully or browbeat you into submission.
Flout?
ARCHAIC
mock; scoff.
"the women pointed and flouted at her"
I quite like 'dismissed my concerns', though it doesn't roll off the tongue. I think 'diss' derives from 'disrespect'
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It's a bit like intimidation - you have a concern you think is legitimate, but they're trying to bully or browbeat you into submission.
Flout?
ARCHAIC
mock; scoff.
"the women pointed and flouted at her"
I quite like 'dismissed my concerns', though it doesn't roll off the tongue. I think 'diss' derives from 'disrespect'
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It's a bit like intimidation - you have a concern you think is legitimate, but they're trying to bully or browbeat you into submission.
Flout?
ARCHAIC
mock; scoff.
"the women pointed and flouted at her"
I quite like 'dismissed my concerns', though it doesn't roll off the tongue. I think 'diss' derives from 'disrespect'
It's a bit like intimidation - you have a concern you think is legitimate, but they're trying to bully or browbeat you into submission.
Flout?
ARCHAIC
mock; scoff.
"the women pointed and flouted at her"
I quite like 'dismissed my concerns', though it doesn't roll off the tongue. I think 'diss' derives from 'disrespect'
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The problem is I don't think there's an English word for exactly this, because you said your mother thought you were being 'fussy' about this. It certainly was not such strong opposition to suggest 'flak' which would be far too strong.
Flak is like military shells (figuratively). Saying you were 'dissed' doesn't sound too 80sish to me, just not quite right. That's more like she put you down over it (not what happened). I think the closest you can get to it is something a lot milder, like 'she gave me a little heat about it'. But I wouldn’t say 'heat' alone, just 'a little heat'. It needs to be a word or phrase that suggests you were worrying unnecessarily about something, in her opinion.
New contributor
The mother was not being fussy. Fussy is what the mother implied about the daughter. OP wrote "your mother somehow implies that you are just being fussy."
– Trevor Reid
Mar 23 at 22:10
Correct. I edited the comment.
– John
Mar 23 at 22:12
Just FYI, I had to edit my question for clarity. I hope it's clearer now. Thank you.
– KannE
23 hours ago
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The problem is I don't think there's an English word for exactly this, because you said your mother thought you were being 'fussy' about this. It certainly was not such strong opposition to suggest 'flak' which would be far too strong.
Flak is like military shells (figuratively). Saying you were 'dissed' doesn't sound too 80sish to me, just not quite right. That's more like she put you down over it (not what happened). I think the closest you can get to it is something a lot milder, like 'she gave me a little heat about it'. But I wouldn’t say 'heat' alone, just 'a little heat'. It needs to be a word or phrase that suggests you were worrying unnecessarily about something, in her opinion.
New contributor
The mother was not being fussy. Fussy is what the mother implied about the daughter. OP wrote "your mother somehow implies that you are just being fussy."
– Trevor Reid
Mar 23 at 22:10
Correct. I edited the comment.
– John
Mar 23 at 22:12
Just FYI, I had to edit my question for clarity. I hope it's clearer now. Thank you.
– KannE
23 hours ago
add a comment |
The problem is I don't think there's an English word for exactly this, because you said your mother thought you were being 'fussy' about this. It certainly was not such strong opposition to suggest 'flak' which would be far too strong.
Flak is like military shells (figuratively). Saying you were 'dissed' doesn't sound too 80sish to me, just not quite right. That's more like she put you down over it (not what happened). I think the closest you can get to it is something a lot milder, like 'she gave me a little heat about it'. But I wouldn’t say 'heat' alone, just 'a little heat'. It needs to be a word or phrase that suggests you were worrying unnecessarily about something, in her opinion.
New contributor
The problem is I don't think there's an English word for exactly this, because you said your mother thought you were being 'fussy' about this. It certainly was not such strong opposition to suggest 'flak' which would be far too strong.
Flak is like military shells (figuratively). Saying you were 'dissed' doesn't sound too 80sish to me, just not quite right. That's more like she put you down over it (not what happened). I think the closest you can get to it is something a lot milder, like 'she gave me a little heat about it'. But I wouldn’t say 'heat' alone, just 'a little heat'. It needs to be a word or phrase that suggests you were worrying unnecessarily about something, in her opinion.
New contributor
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The mother was not being fussy. Fussy is what the mother implied about the daughter. OP wrote "your mother somehow implies that you are just being fussy."
– Trevor Reid
Mar 23 at 22:10
Correct. I edited the comment.
– John
Mar 23 at 22:12
Just FYI, I had to edit my question for clarity. I hope it's clearer now. Thank you.
– KannE
23 hours ago
add a comment |
The mother was not being fussy. Fussy is what the mother implied about the daughter. OP wrote "your mother somehow implies that you are just being fussy."
– Trevor Reid
Mar 23 at 22:10
Correct. I edited the comment.
– John
Mar 23 at 22:12
Just FYI, I had to edit my question for clarity. I hope it's clearer now. Thank you.
– KannE
23 hours ago
The mother was not being fussy. Fussy is what the mother implied about the daughter. OP wrote "your mother somehow implies that you are just being fussy."
– Trevor Reid
Mar 23 at 22:10
The mother was not being fussy. Fussy is what the mother implied about the daughter. OP wrote "your mother somehow implies that you are just being fussy."
– Trevor Reid
Mar 23 at 22:10
Correct. I edited the comment.
– John
Mar 23 at 22:12
Correct. I edited the comment.
– John
Mar 23 at 22:12
Just FYI, I had to edit my question for clarity. I hope it's clearer now. Thank you.
– KannE
23 hours ago
Just FYI, I had to edit my question for clarity. I hope it's clearer now. Thank you.
– KannE
23 hours ago
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Consider dismiss.
dismiss
2 Treat as unworthy of serious consideration.
‘When I campaigned for Police Community Support Officers in 2000, as the Mayoral candidate for London, the idea was dismissed by my opponents.’
- ODO
In the context of the examples you raise, dismiss tends to apply more naturally to the ideas rather than the people. Dismissing the person is a lot more offensive than dismissing the idea, though in the second example below, it could be read as a metonymic dismissal of the idea.
- When I reminded her about the car seat, she just dismissed [it / the idea].
- The parent who brought up the no-nut thing was dismissed by some of the others.
To dismiss an idea is to consider it so trivial that it doesn't bear further discussion. You can say that someone's attitude was dismissive, or even that they were dismissive. To complain that you were dismissed often implies that you were offended by the dismissal.
When using dismiss to mean the setting aside of something trivial, it's usually pretty clear that the one doing the dismissing considers the thing to be trivial. Whether it actually was or wasn't trivial relies on the context.
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Consider dismiss.
dismiss
2 Treat as unworthy of serious consideration.
‘When I campaigned for Police Community Support Officers in 2000, as the Mayoral candidate for London, the idea was dismissed by my opponents.’
- ODO
In the context of the examples you raise, dismiss tends to apply more naturally to the ideas rather than the people. Dismissing the person is a lot more offensive than dismissing the idea, though in the second example below, it could be read as a metonymic dismissal of the idea.
- When I reminded her about the car seat, she just dismissed [it / the idea].
- The parent who brought up the no-nut thing was dismissed by some of the others.
To dismiss an idea is to consider it so trivial that it doesn't bear further discussion. You can say that someone's attitude was dismissive, or even that they were dismissive. To complain that you were dismissed often implies that you were offended by the dismissal.
When using dismiss to mean the setting aside of something trivial, it's usually pretty clear that the one doing the dismissing considers the thing to be trivial. Whether it actually was or wasn't trivial relies on the context.
add a comment |
Consider dismiss.
dismiss
2 Treat as unworthy of serious consideration.
‘When I campaigned for Police Community Support Officers in 2000, as the Mayoral candidate for London, the idea was dismissed by my opponents.’
- ODO
In the context of the examples you raise, dismiss tends to apply more naturally to the ideas rather than the people. Dismissing the person is a lot more offensive than dismissing the idea, though in the second example below, it could be read as a metonymic dismissal of the idea.
- When I reminded her about the car seat, she just dismissed [it / the idea].
- The parent who brought up the no-nut thing was dismissed by some of the others.
To dismiss an idea is to consider it so trivial that it doesn't bear further discussion. You can say that someone's attitude was dismissive, or even that they were dismissive. To complain that you were dismissed often implies that you were offended by the dismissal.
When using dismiss to mean the setting aside of something trivial, it's usually pretty clear that the one doing the dismissing considers the thing to be trivial. Whether it actually was or wasn't trivial relies on the context.
Consider dismiss.
dismiss
2 Treat as unworthy of serious consideration.
‘When I campaigned for Police Community Support Officers in 2000, as the Mayoral candidate for London, the idea was dismissed by my opponents.’
- ODO
In the context of the examples you raise, dismiss tends to apply more naturally to the ideas rather than the people. Dismissing the person is a lot more offensive than dismissing the idea, though in the second example below, it could be read as a metonymic dismissal of the idea.
- When I reminded her about the car seat, she just dismissed [it / the idea].
- The parent who brought up the no-nut thing was dismissed by some of the others.
To dismiss an idea is to consider it so trivial that it doesn't bear further discussion. You can say that someone's attitude was dismissive, or even that they were dismissive. To complain that you were dismissed often implies that you were offended by the dismissal.
When using dismiss to mean the setting aside of something trivial, it's usually pretty clear that the one doing the dismissing considers the thing to be trivial. Whether it actually was or wasn't trivial relies on the context.
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answered 22 hours ago
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Got it. Let me think on this one. I'm from the 80's too. Not "dissed"?
– user22542
Mar 23 at 22:58
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I think the situation is clear, but what to call things naturally in the best way is not clear. You're trying to describe the (now) grandmother, how she is not understanding the situation well because she is strangely not that empathetic with the mother, and she is disregarding what the birth mom is saying because the gm doesn't know the new (at least 25 years old!) laws. Not an answer at all, but that situation is exasperating. I think 'can't handle everyday details well' is not what you are really looking after though. That would be ... um... dementia.
– Mitch
2 days ago
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"My mother just rode roughshod over me." I don't have kids but my mother was exactly like yours. A real pain in the patootie [my word, I think] and blithely unaware of others' mental states.
– Lambie
yesterday
@Lambie patootie - 1 (dated) A girlfriend or a pretty girl. 2 A person's or animal's buttocks.
– Mitch
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Excellent redraft. The question is clear now.
– Lawrence
23 hours ago