What is a term for something unwanted but which cannot be ignored?
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What is a term for a problem between sides that has surfaced that one would pretend to have always been submerged yet cannot be ignored?
For example, two sides always had potential and reason for conflict, but this was kept submerged, and purposefully ignored. Now, the conflict has surfaced and none can ignore it, though nobody wishes it were so. Institutional things especially. Imagine for example two government ministers who want to be on the same side but now realize that the conflict between them which they wish could have been ignored has emerged as something unavoidable, and that others can see it as well.
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More specifically...
What is a term for a problem between sides that has surfaced that one would pretend to have always been submerged yet cannot be ignored?
For example, two sides always had potential and reason for conflict, but this was kept submerged, and purposefully ignored. Now, the conflict has surfaced and none can ignore it, though nobody wishes it were so. Institutional things especially. Imagine for example two government ministers who want to be on the same side but now realize that the conflict between them which they wish could have been ignored has emerged as something unavoidable, and that others can see it as well.
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Can you give an example? Something tangible? Something psychological? etc..
– Othya
Mar 17 '15 at 11:36
Anything can be ignored, if you put enough effort into it. (Until it kills you, of course.)
– Hot Licks
Mar 17 '15 at 12:18
@HotLicks To an extent. But if, say, someone keeps kicking you in the shins, you can try to ignore them, you can pretend to ignore them, but you can't just not notice that they're doing it. Also, just because you CAN ignore something doesn't mean that you do. So I think it's fair to talk about things that a person is TRYING to ignore but which is difficult to ignore.
– Jay
Mar 17 '15 at 13:43
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What is a term for a problem between sides that has surfaced that one would pretend to have always been submerged yet cannot be ignored?
For example, two sides always had potential and reason for conflict, but this was kept submerged, and purposefully ignored. Now, the conflict has surfaced and none can ignore it, though nobody wishes it were so. Institutional things especially. Imagine for example two government ministers who want to be on the same side but now realize that the conflict between them which they wish could have been ignored has emerged as something unavoidable, and that others can see it as well.
word-choice
More specifically...
What is a term for a problem between sides that has surfaced that one would pretend to have always been submerged yet cannot be ignored?
For example, two sides always had potential and reason for conflict, but this was kept submerged, and purposefully ignored. Now, the conflict has surfaced and none can ignore it, though nobody wishes it were so. Institutional things especially. Imagine for example two government ministers who want to be on the same side but now realize that the conflict between them which they wish could have been ignored has emerged as something unavoidable, and that others can see it as well.
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Can you give an example? Something tangible? Something psychological? etc..
– Othya
Mar 17 '15 at 11:36
Anything can be ignored, if you put enough effort into it. (Until it kills you, of course.)
– Hot Licks
Mar 17 '15 at 12:18
@HotLicks To an extent. But if, say, someone keeps kicking you in the shins, you can try to ignore them, you can pretend to ignore them, but you can't just not notice that they're doing it. Also, just because you CAN ignore something doesn't mean that you do. So I think it's fair to talk about things that a person is TRYING to ignore but which is difficult to ignore.
– Jay
Mar 17 '15 at 13:43
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Can you give an example? Something tangible? Something psychological? etc..
– Othya
Mar 17 '15 at 11:36
Anything can be ignored, if you put enough effort into it. (Until it kills you, of course.)
– Hot Licks
Mar 17 '15 at 12:18
@HotLicks To an extent. But if, say, someone keeps kicking you in the shins, you can try to ignore them, you can pretend to ignore them, but you can't just not notice that they're doing it. Also, just because you CAN ignore something doesn't mean that you do. So I think it's fair to talk about things that a person is TRYING to ignore but which is difficult to ignore.
– Jay
Mar 17 '15 at 13:43
Can you give an example? Something tangible? Something psychological? etc..
– Othya
Mar 17 '15 at 11:36
Can you give an example? Something tangible? Something psychological? etc..
– Othya
Mar 17 '15 at 11:36
Anything can be ignored, if you put enough effort into it. (Until it kills you, of course.)
– Hot Licks
Mar 17 '15 at 12:18
Anything can be ignored, if you put enough effort into it. (Until it kills you, of course.)
– Hot Licks
Mar 17 '15 at 12:18
@HotLicks To an extent. But if, say, someone keeps kicking you in the shins, you can try to ignore them, you can pretend to ignore them, but you can't just not notice that they're doing it. Also, just because you CAN ignore something doesn't mean that you do. So I think it's fair to talk about things that a person is TRYING to ignore but which is difficult to ignore.
– Jay
Mar 17 '15 at 13:43
@HotLicks To an extent. But if, say, someone keeps kicking you in the shins, you can try to ignore them, you can pretend to ignore them, but you can't just not notice that they're doing it. Also, just because you CAN ignore something doesn't mean that you do. So I think it's fair to talk about things that a person is TRYING to ignore but which is difficult to ignore.
– Jay
Mar 17 '15 at 13:43
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Something which is obvious but which people deliberately avoid or try to ignore can be called the elephant in the room.
Right, that's not far from the idea, but it's so cliché. But there might not be better as a term. Of course if I knew I wouldn't ask...
– Mallory-Erik
Mar 17 '15 at 13:20
@Mallory-Erik - There is no simple English word for this concept, but there are idioms. Idioms can be cliché, but sometimes that is what is best to communicate your idea clearly and concisely.
– Joel Brown
Mar 17 '15 at 13:32
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800-pound gorilla in the room: is an idiomatic expression that may describe to what you are referring to:
one that is dominating or uncontrollable because of great size or power. (M-W)
800-pound gorilla" is an American English expression for a person or organization so powerful that it can act without regard to the rights of others or the law. (Wikipedia)
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How long do you usually hunt before you catch a memory?
– Ian MacDonald
Mar 17 '15 at 11:38
Right, not a memory, but a new untenable social reality that can't be ignored, esp institutional, organizational arrangements.
– Mallory-Erik
Mar 17 '15 at 12:02
For example, two sides always had potential and reason for conflict, but this was kept submerged, and purposefully ignored. Now, the conflict has surfaced and none can ignore it, though nobody wishes it were so. Institutional things especially. Imagine for example two government ministers who want to be on the same side but now realize that the conflict between them which they wish could have been ignored has emerged, and that others can see it as well.
– Mallory-Erik
Mar 17 '15 at 12:12
I think "elephant in the room" is the far more common expression in the US. "800 pound gorilla" is the thing that gets its way, regardless, and is not typically considered to be ignored. Eg, the National Rifle Association in the US is an 800 pound gorilla, while climate change is the elephant in the room.
– Hot Licks
Mar 17 '15 at 12:20
@HotLicks - OP is just referring to something that cannot be ignored.
– user66974
Mar 17 '15 at 12:23
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What's a term for a dispute that's come to an impasse?
precipice [pres-uh-pis] noun -dictionary.com
2. a situation of great peril: "on the precipice of war".
What is a term for something unwanted but which cannot be ignored?
pressure; pres·sure ˈpre-shər noun -MW
5. the stress or urgency of matters demanding attention
I have a 'nagging feeling' that neither of these words is what you're looking for, but we'll just 'keep a lid on that' for the moment. Although they may disagree on many things, both the ministers think their courses of action to be 'necessary evils' but are now 'under pressure' from their constituents because 'the cat's out of the bag'.
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inescapable : unable to be avoided or denied.
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Something which is obvious but which people deliberately avoid or try to ignore can be called the elephant in the room.
Right, that's not far from the idea, but it's so cliché. But there might not be better as a term. Of course if I knew I wouldn't ask...
– Mallory-Erik
Mar 17 '15 at 13:20
@Mallory-Erik - There is no simple English word for this concept, but there are idioms. Idioms can be cliché, but sometimes that is what is best to communicate your idea clearly and concisely.
– Joel Brown
Mar 17 '15 at 13:32
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Something which is obvious but which people deliberately avoid or try to ignore can be called the elephant in the room.
Right, that's not far from the idea, but it's so cliché. But there might not be better as a term. Of course if I knew I wouldn't ask...
– Mallory-Erik
Mar 17 '15 at 13:20
@Mallory-Erik - There is no simple English word for this concept, but there are idioms. Idioms can be cliché, but sometimes that is what is best to communicate your idea clearly and concisely.
– Joel Brown
Mar 17 '15 at 13:32
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Something which is obvious but which people deliberately avoid or try to ignore can be called the elephant in the room.
Something which is obvious but which people deliberately avoid or try to ignore can be called the elephant in the room.
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Right, that's not far from the idea, but it's so cliché. But there might not be better as a term. Of course if I knew I wouldn't ask...
– Mallory-Erik
Mar 17 '15 at 13:20
@Mallory-Erik - There is no simple English word for this concept, but there are idioms. Idioms can be cliché, but sometimes that is what is best to communicate your idea clearly and concisely.
– Joel Brown
Mar 17 '15 at 13:32
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Right, that's not far from the idea, but it's so cliché. But there might not be better as a term. Of course if I knew I wouldn't ask...
– Mallory-Erik
Mar 17 '15 at 13:20
@Mallory-Erik - There is no simple English word for this concept, but there are idioms. Idioms can be cliché, but sometimes that is what is best to communicate your idea clearly and concisely.
– Joel Brown
Mar 17 '15 at 13:32
Right, that's not far from the idea, but it's so cliché. But there might not be better as a term. Of course if I knew I wouldn't ask...
– Mallory-Erik
Mar 17 '15 at 13:20
Right, that's not far from the idea, but it's so cliché. But there might not be better as a term. Of course if I knew I wouldn't ask...
– Mallory-Erik
Mar 17 '15 at 13:20
@Mallory-Erik - There is no simple English word for this concept, but there are idioms. Idioms can be cliché, but sometimes that is what is best to communicate your idea clearly and concisely.
– Joel Brown
Mar 17 '15 at 13:32
@Mallory-Erik - There is no simple English word for this concept, but there are idioms. Idioms can be cliché, but sometimes that is what is best to communicate your idea clearly and concisely.
– Joel Brown
Mar 17 '15 at 13:32
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800-pound gorilla in the room: is an idiomatic expression that may describe to what you are referring to:
one that is dominating or uncontrollable because of great size or power. (M-W)
800-pound gorilla" is an American English expression for a person or organization so powerful that it can act without regard to the rights of others or the law. (Wikipedia)
(TFD)
1
How long do you usually hunt before you catch a memory?
– Ian MacDonald
Mar 17 '15 at 11:38
Right, not a memory, but a new untenable social reality that can't be ignored, esp institutional, organizational arrangements.
– Mallory-Erik
Mar 17 '15 at 12:02
For example, two sides always had potential and reason for conflict, but this was kept submerged, and purposefully ignored. Now, the conflict has surfaced and none can ignore it, though nobody wishes it were so. Institutional things especially. Imagine for example two government ministers who want to be on the same side but now realize that the conflict between them which they wish could have been ignored has emerged, and that others can see it as well.
– Mallory-Erik
Mar 17 '15 at 12:12
I think "elephant in the room" is the far more common expression in the US. "800 pound gorilla" is the thing that gets its way, regardless, and is not typically considered to be ignored. Eg, the National Rifle Association in the US is an 800 pound gorilla, while climate change is the elephant in the room.
– Hot Licks
Mar 17 '15 at 12:20
@HotLicks - OP is just referring to something that cannot be ignored.
– user66974
Mar 17 '15 at 12:23
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800-pound gorilla in the room: is an idiomatic expression that may describe to what you are referring to:
one that is dominating or uncontrollable because of great size or power. (M-W)
800-pound gorilla" is an American English expression for a person or organization so powerful that it can act without regard to the rights of others or the law. (Wikipedia)
(TFD)
1
How long do you usually hunt before you catch a memory?
– Ian MacDonald
Mar 17 '15 at 11:38
Right, not a memory, but a new untenable social reality that can't be ignored, esp institutional, organizational arrangements.
– Mallory-Erik
Mar 17 '15 at 12:02
For example, two sides always had potential and reason for conflict, but this was kept submerged, and purposefully ignored. Now, the conflict has surfaced and none can ignore it, though nobody wishes it were so. Institutional things especially. Imagine for example two government ministers who want to be on the same side but now realize that the conflict between them which they wish could have been ignored has emerged, and that others can see it as well.
– Mallory-Erik
Mar 17 '15 at 12:12
I think "elephant in the room" is the far more common expression in the US. "800 pound gorilla" is the thing that gets its way, regardless, and is not typically considered to be ignored. Eg, the National Rifle Association in the US is an 800 pound gorilla, while climate change is the elephant in the room.
– Hot Licks
Mar 17 '15 at 12:20
@HotLicks - OP is just referring to something that cannot be ignored.
– user66974
Mar 17 '15 at 12:23
|
show 2 more comments
800-pound gorilla in the room: is an idiomatic expression that may describe to what you are referring to:
one that is dominating or uncontrollable because of great size or power. (M-W)
800-pound gorilla" is an American English expression for a person or organization so powerful that it can act without regard to the rights of others or the law. (Wikipedia)
(TFD)
800-pound gorilla in the room: is an idiomatic expression that may describe to what you are referring to:
one that is dominating or uncontrollable because of great size or power. (M-W)
800-pound gorilla" is an American English expression for a person or organization so powerful that it can act without regard to the rights of others or the law. (Wikipedia)
(TFD)
edited Mar 17 '15 at 12:16
answered Mar 17 '15 at 11:31
user66974
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How long do you usually hunt before you catch a memory?
– Ian MacDonald
Mar 17 '15 at 11:38
Right, not a memory, but a new untenable social reality that can't be ignored, esp institutional, organizational arrangements.
– Mallory-Erik
Mar 17 '15 at 12:02
For example, two sides always had potential and reason for conflict, but this was kept submerged, and purposefully ignored. Now, the conflict has surfaced and none can ignore it, though nobody wishes it were so. Institutional things especially. Imagine for example two government ministers who want to be on the same side but now realize that the conflict between them which they wish could have been ignored has emerged, and that others can see it as well.
– Mallory-Erik
Mar 17 '15 at 12:12
I think "elephant in the room" is the far more common expression in the US. "800 pound gorilla" is the thing that gets its way, regardless, and is not typically considered to be ignored. Eg, the National Rifle Association in the US is an 800 pound gorilla, while climate change is the elephant in the room.
– Hot Licks
Mar 17 '15 at 12:20
@HotLicks - OP is just referring to something that cannot be ignored.
– user66974
Mar 17 '15 at 12:23
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show 2 more comments
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How long do you usually hunt before you catch a memory?
– Ian MacDonald
Mar 17 '15 at 11:38
Right, not a memory, but a new untenable social reality that can't be ignored, esp institutional, organizational arrangements.
– Mallory-Erik
Mar 17 '15 at 12:02
For example, two sides always had potential and reason for conflict, but this was kept submerged, and purposefully ignored. Now, the conflict has surfaced and none can ignore it, though nobody wishes it were so. Institutional things especially. Imagine for example two government ministers who want to be on the same side but now realize that the conflict between them which they wish could have been ignored has emerged, and that others can see it as well.
– Mallory-Erik
Mar 17 '15 at 12:12
I think "elephant in the room" is the far more common expression in the US. "800 pound gorilla" is the thing that gets its way, regardless, and is not typically considered to be ignored. Eg, the National Rifle Association in the US is an 800 pound gorilla, while climate change is the elephant in the room.
– Hot Licks
Mar 17 '15 at 12:20
@HotLicks - OP is just referring to something that cannot be ignored.
– user66974
Mar 17 '15 at 12:23
1
1
How long do you usually hunt before you catch a memory?
– Ian MacDonald
Mar 17 '15 at 11:38
How long do you usually hunt before you catch a memory?
– Ian MacDonald
Mar 17 '15 at 11:38
Right, not a memory, but a new untenable social reality that can't be ignored, esp institutional, organizational arrangements.
– Mallory-Erik
Mar 17 '15 at 12:02
Right, not a memory, but a new untenable social reality that can't be ignored, esp institutional, organizational arrangements.
– Mallory-Erik
Mar 17 '15 at 12:02
For example, two sides always had potential and reason for conflict, but this was kept submerged, and purposefully ignored. Now, the conflict has surfaced and none can ignore it, though nobody wishes it were so. Institutional things especially. Imagine for example two government ministers who want to be on the same side but now realize that the conflict between them which they wish could have been ignored has emerged, and that others can see it as well.
– Mallory-Erik
Mar 17 '15 at 12:12
For example, two sides always had potential and reason for conflict, but this was kept submerged, and purposefully ignored. Now, the conflict has surfaced and none can ignore it, though nobody wishes it were so. Institutional things especially. Imagine for example two government ministers who want to be on the same side but now realize that the conflict between them which they wish could have been ignored has emerged, and that others can see it as well.
– Mallory-Erik
Mar 17 '15 at 12:12
I think "elephant in the room" is the far more common expression in the US. "800 pound gorilla" is the thing that gets its way, regardless, and is not typically considered to be ignored. Eg, the National Rifle Association in the US is an 800 pound gorilla, while climate change is the elephant in the room.
– Hot Licks
Mar 17 '15 at 12:20
I think "elephant in the room" is the far more common expression in the US. "800 pound gorilla" is the thing that gets its way, regardless, and is not typically considered to be ignored. Eg, the National Rifle Association in the US is an 800 pound gorilla, while climate change is the elephant in the room.
– Hot Licks
Mar 17 '15 at 12:20
@HotLicks - OP is just referring to something that cannot be ignored.
– user66974
Mar 17 '15 at 12:23
@HotLicks - OP is just referring to something that cannot be ignored.
– user66974
Mar 17 '15 at 12:23
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What's a term for a dispute that's come to an impasse?
precipice [pres-uh-pis] noun -dictionary.com
2. a situation of great peril: "on the precipice of war".
What is a term for something unwanted but which cannot be ignored?
pressure; pres·sure ˈpre-shər noun -MW
5. the stress or urgency of matters demanding attention
I have a 'nagging feeling' that neither of these words is what you're looking for, but we'll just 'keep a lid on that' for the moment. Although they may disagree on many things, both the ministers think their courses of action to be 'necessary evils' but are now 'under pressure' from their constituents because 'the cat's out of the bag'.
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What's a term for a dispute that's come to an impasse?
precipice [pres-uh-pis] noun -dictionary.com
2. a situation of great peril: "on the precipice of war".
What is a term for something unwanted but which cannot be ignored?
pressure; pres·sure ˈpre-shər noun -MW
5. the stress or urgency of matters demanding attention
I have a 'nagging feeling' that neither of these words is what you're looking for, but we'll just 'keep a lid on that' for the moment. Although they may disagree on many things, both the ministers think their courses of action to be 'necessary evils' but are now 'under pressure' from their constituents because 'the cat's out of the bag'.
add a comment |
What's a term for a dispute that's come to an impasse?
precipice [pres-uh-pis] noun -dictionary.com
2. a situation of great peril: "on the precipice of war".
What is a term for something unwanted but which cannot be ignored?
pressure; pres·sure ˈpre-shər noun -MW
5. the stress or urgency of matters demanding attention
I have a 'nagging feeling' that neither of these words is what you're looking for, but we'll just 'keep a lid on that' for the moment. Although they may disagree on many things, both the ministers think their courses of action to be 'necessary evils' but are now 'under pressure' from their constituents because 'the cat's out of the bag'.
What's a term for a dispute that's come to an impasse?
precipice [pres-uh-pis] noun -dictionary.com
2. a situation of great peril: "on the precipice of war".
What is a term for something unwanted but which cannot be ignored?
pressure; pres·sure ˈpre-shər noun -MW
5. the stress or urgency of matters demanding attention
I have a 'nagging feeling' that neither of these words is what you're looking for, but we'll just 'keep a lid on that' for the moment. Although they may disagree on many things, both the ministers think their courses of action to be 'necessary evils' but are now 'under pressure' from their constituents because 'the cat's out of the bag'.
answered Mar 18 '15 at 5:15
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inescapable : unable to be avoided or denied.
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inescapable : unable to be avoided or denied.
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inescapable : unable to be avoided or denied.
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Can you give an example? Something tangible? Something psychological? etc..
– Othya
Mar 17 '15 at 11:36
Anything can be ignored, if you put enough effort into it. (Until it kills you, of course.)
– Hot Licks
Mar 17 '15 at 12:18
@HotLicks To an extent. But if, say, someone keeps kicking you in the shins, you can try to ignore them, you can pretend to ignore them, but you can't just not notice that they're doing it. Also, just because you CAN ignore something doesn't mean that you do. So I think it's fair to talk about things that a person is TRYING to ignore but which is difficult to ignore.
– Jay
Mar 17 '15 at 13:43