Is “he or she” offensive?
I was writing an email and a friend pointed out that I should stop using "he/she" and instead always use "they" to refer to a person of unknown gender, since "he or she" implies there are only two gender, which is very insulting to people who don't identify as either male or female.
I've never heard of anyone being insulted by "he or she". Should I make an effort to change my writing habits, or is my friend wrong?
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I was writing an email and a friend pointed out that I should stop using "he/she" and instead always use "they" to refer to a person of unknown gender, since "he or she" implies there are only two gender, which is very insulting to people who don't identify as either male or female.
I've never heard of anyone being insulted by "he or she". Should I make an effort to change my writing habits, or is my friend wrong?
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As far as I'm concerned people are either male or female. I haven't even started to think about what to call people who claim neither identification. But I suppose we shall all have to address that point if things carry on as they are doing.
– WS2
2 hours ago
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There are certainly people who identify as neither male nor female, and the use of they as a gender-neutral singular pronoun is well-established, even if certain grammatical prescriptivists object. However, whether a phrase is generally "offensive" is a question of opinion.
– Benjamin Kuykendall
2 hours ago
Any answer to this Q. would be "primarily opinion-based": answers to this question will tend to be almost entirely based on opinions, rather than facts, references, or specific expertise. As such, it does not meet the criteria for Qs on this site.
– TrevorD
1 hour ago
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I propose using "e" for "he/she", "h" for "him/her", and "s" for "his/hers". Easy to remember!
– Hot Licks
1 hour ago
@HotLicks Unfortunately not quite as easy to pronounce.
– Janus Bahs Jacquet
1 hour ago
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I was writing an email and a friend pointed out that I should stop using "he/she" and instead always use "they" to refer to a person of unknown gender, since "he or she" implies there are only two gender, which is very insulting to people who don't identify as either male or female.
I've never heard of anyone being insulted by "he or she". Should I make an effort to change my writing habits, or is my friend wrong?
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I was writing an email and a friend pointed out that I should stop using "he/she" and instead always use "they" to refer to a person of unknown gender, since "he or she" implies there are only two gender, which is very insulting to people who don't identify as either male or female.
I've never heard of anyone being insulted by "he or she". Should I make an effort to change my writing habits, or is my friend wrong?
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As far as I'm concerned people are either male or female. I haven't even started to think about what to call people who claim neither identification. But I suppose we shall all have to address that point if things carry on as they are doing.
– WS2
2 hours ago
1
There are certainly people who identify as neither male nor female, and the use of they as a gender-neutral singular pronoun is well-established, even if certain grammatical prescriptivists object. However, whether a phrase is generally "offensive" is a question of opinion.
– Benjamin Kuykendall
2 hours ago
Any answer to this Q. would be "primarily opinion-based": answers to this question will tend to be almost entirely based on opinions, rather than facts, references, or specific expertise. As such, it does not meet the criteria for Qs on this site.
– TrevorD
1 hour ago
1
I propose using "e" for "he/she", "h" for "him/her", and "s" for "his/hers". Easy to remember!
– Hot Licks
1 hour ago
@HotLicks Unfortunately not quite as easy to pronounce.
– Janus Bahs Jacquet
1 hour ago
|
show 1 more comment
As far as I'm concerned people are either male or female. I haven't even started to think about what to call people who claim neither identification. But I suppose we shall all have to address that point if things carry on as they are doing.
– WS2
2 hours ago
1
There are certainly people who identify as neither male nor female, and the use of they as a gender-neutral singular pronoun is well-established, even if certain grammatical prescriptivists object. However, whether a phrase is generally "offensive" is a question of opinion.
– Benjamin Kuykendall
2 hours ago
Any answer to this Q. would be "primarily opinion-based": answers to this question will tend to be almost entirely based on opinions, rather than facts, references, or specific expertise. As such, it does not meet the criteria for Qs on this site.
– TrevorD
1 hour ago
1
I propose using "e" for "he/she", "h" for "him/her", and "s" for "his/hers". Easy to remember!
– Hot Licks
1 hour ago
@HotLicks Unfortunately not quite as easy to pronounce.
– Janus Bahs Jacquet
1 hour ago
As far as I'm concerned people are either male or female. I haven't even started to think about what to call people who claim neither identification. But I suppose we shall all have to address that point if things carry on as they are doing.
– WS2
2 hours ago
As far as I'm concerned people are either male or female. I haven't even started to think about what to call people who claim neither identification. But I suppose we shall all have to address that point if things carry on as they are doing.
– WS2
2 hours ago
1
1
There are certainly people who identify as neither male nor female, and the use of they as a gender-neutral singular pronoun is well-established, even if certain grammatical prescriptivists object. However, whether a phrase is generally "offensive" is a question of opinion.
– Benjamin Kuykendall
2 hours ago
There are certainly people who identify as neither male nor female, and the use of they as a gender-neutral singular pronoun is well-established, even if certain grammatical prescriptivists object. However, whether a phrase is generally "offensive" is a question of opinion.
– Benjamin Kuykendall
2 hours ago
Any answer to this Q. would be "primarily opinion-based": answers to this question will tend to be almost entirely based on opinions, rather than facts, references, or specific expertise. As such, it does not meet the criteria for Qs on this site.
– TrevorD
1 hour ago
Any answer to this Q. would be "primarily opinion-based": answers to this question will tend to be almost entirely based on opinions, rather than facts, references, or specific expertise. As such, it does not meet the criteria for Qs on this site.
– TrevorD
1 hour ago
1
1
I propose using "e" for "he/she", "h" for "him/her", and "s" for "his/hers". Easy to remember!
– Hot Licks
1 hour ago
I propose using "e" for "he/she", "h" for "him/her", and "s" for "his/hers". Easy to remember!
– Hot Licks
1 hour ago
@HotLicks Unfortunately not quite as easy to pronounce.
– Janus Bahs Jacquet
1 hour ago
@HotLicks Unfortunately not quite as easy to pronounce.
– Janus Bahs Jacquet
1 hour ago
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I'm a grammarian pedant by nature, I'm in my very late 40's, male, cis-gendered and so on.
That said: the force gendered he or she has been a construction to avoid in technical writing for quite some time. It's not necessarily offensive per se, it's just uninclusive and clumsy.
They as a pronoun is not incredibly new, it's been brewing and in use for some time, and is in fact in pretty broad use: it's most typically the accepted pronoun of either non-gender-binary folks or some who effectively decline-to-state.
The context in which a he or she can be directly offensive is if a given individual or group has informed one of their preferred pronoun, and one is explicitly ignoring said preference, and forcing a he or she upon said individual or group unwanted, whether that be due to one's inner grammarian pedant, one's political views or even just plain cussedness.
To re-iterate my earlier point: in general writing, technical writing etc, it's been long been considered poor practise to gender language unnecessarily.
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I'm a grammarian pedant by nature, I'm in my very late 40's, male, cis-gendered and so on.
That said: the force gendered he or she has been a construction to avoid in technical writing for quite some time. It's not necessarily offensive per se, it's just uninclusive and clumsy.
They as a pronoun is not incredibly new, it's been brewing and in use for some time, and is in fact in pretty broad use: it's most typically the accepted pronoun of either non-gender-binary folks or some who effectively decline-to-state.
The context in which a he or she can be directly offensive is if a given individual or group has informed one of their preferred pronoun, and one is explicitly ignoring said preference, and forcing a he or she upon said individual or group unwanted, whether that be due to one's inner grammarian pedant, one's political views or even just plain cussedness.
To re-iterate my earlier point: in general writing, technical writing etc, it's been long been considered poor practise to gender language unnecessarily.
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I'm a grammarian pedant by nature, I'm in my very late 40's, male, cis-gendered and so on.
That said: the force gendered he or she has been a construction to avoid in technical writing for quite some time. It's not necessarily offensive per se, it's just uninclusive and clumsy.
They as a pronoun is not incredibly new, it's been brewing and in use for some time, and is in fact in pretty broad use: it's most typically the accepted pronoun of either non-gender-binary folks or some who effectively decline-to-state.
The context in which a he or she can be directly offensive is if a given individual or group has informed one of their preferred pronoun, and one is explicitly ignoring said preference, and forcing a he or she upon said individual or group unwanted, whether that be due to one's inner grammarian pedant, one's political views or even just plain cussedness.
To re-iterate my earlier point: in general writing, technical writing etc, it's been long been considered poor practise to gender language unnecessarily.
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I'm a grammarian pedant by nature, I'm in my very late 40's, male, cis-gendered and so on.
That said: the force gendered he or she has been a construction to avoid in technical writing for quite some time. It's not necessarily offensive per se, it's just uninclusive and clumsy.
They as a pronoun is not incredibly new, it's been brewing and in use for some time, and is in fact in pretty broad use: it's most typically the accepted pronoun of either non-gender-binary folks or some who effectively decline-to-state.
The context in which a he or she can be directly offensive is if a given individual or group has informed one of their preferred pronoun, and one is explicitly ignoring said preference, and forcing a he or she upon said individual or group unwanted, whether that be due to one's inner grammarian pedant, one's political views or even just plain cussedness.
To re-iterate my earlier point: in general writing, technical writing etc, it's been long been considered poor practise to gender language unnecessarily.
I'm a grammarian pedant by nature, I'm in my very late 40's, male, cis-gendered and so on.
That said: the force gendered he or she has been a construction to avoid in technical writing for quite some time. It's not necessarily offensive per se, it's just uninclusive and clumsy.
They as a pronoun is not incredibly new, it's been brewing and in use for some time, and is in fact in pretty broad use: it's most typically the accepted pronoun of either non-gender-binary folks or some who effectively decline-to-state.
The context in which a he or she can be directly offensive is if a given individual or group has informed one of their preferred pronoun, and one is explicitly ignoring said preference, and forcing a he or she upon said individual or group unwanted, whether that be due to one's inner grammarian pedant, one's political views or even just plain cussedness.
To re-iterate my earlier point: in general writing, technical writing etc, it's been long been considered poor practise to gender language unnecessarily.
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As far as I'm concerned people are either male or female. I haven't even started to think about what to call people who claim neither identification. But I suppose we shall all have to address that point if things carry on as they are doing.
– WS2
2 hours ago
1
There are certainly people who identify as neither male nor female, and the use of they as a gender-neutral singular pronoun is well-established, even if certain grammatical prescriptivists object. However, whether a phrase is generally "offensive" is a question of opinion.
– Benjamin Kuykendall
2 hours ago
Any answer to this Q. would be "primarily opinion-based": answers to this question will tend to be almost entirely based on opinions, rather than facts, references, or specific expertise. As such, it does not meet the criteria for Qs on this site.
– TrevorD
1 hour ago
1
I propose using "e" for "he/she", "h" for "him/her", and "s" for "his/hers". Easy to remember!
– Hot Licks
1 hour ago
@HotLicks Unfortunately not quite as easy to pronounce.
– Janus Bahs Jacquet
1 hour ago