Word for the act of being unwilling to forgive?
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I'm developing a novel, and I'm having a hard time describing a major characteristic of the main character. We'll call him Dan for the moment.
There was another person (we'll call him/her "Francis" for now), who did something bad to Dan. Dan cannot forgive Francis for this action. Time has gone by, and Francis has apologized for the action, and is ready to make up. Dan however, remains stubbornly holding onto his ___. That's the word I need. 'Unforgivingness'.
It's more than simply not forgiving someone. It's more active than that; more like staying angry at them when you know it's over. Essentially the opposite of 'forgiveness'. Forgiveness means the 'act of forgiving', so the word I'm looking for would mean the 'act of consciously refusing to forgive someone'.
Example sentence:
"You drove them away, through your own ___ (unwillingness to forgive them)."
Is there a single word for this I can use?
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I'm developing a novel, and I'm having a hard time describing a major characteristic of the main character. We'll call him Dan for the moment.
There was another person (we'll call him/her "Francis" for now), who did something bad to Dan. Dan cannot forgive Francis for this action. Time has gone by, and Francis has apologized for the action, and is ready to make up. Dan however, remains stubbornly holding onto his ___. That's the word I need. 'Unforgivingness'.
It's more than simply not forgiving someone. It's more active than that; more like staying angry at them when you know it's over. Essentially the opposite of 'forgiveness'. Forgiveness means the 'act of forgiving', so the word I'm looking for would mean the 'act of consciously refusing to forgive someone'.
Example sentence:
"You drove them away, through your own ___ (unwillingness to forgive them)."
Is there a single word for this I can use?
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asked Oct 17 '16 at 19:49
Thomas Myron
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Unwillingness to forgive is a state, rather than an event (though it may of course trigger events). / Hard-heartedness is a hypernym here. As is inclemency.
– Edwin Ashworth
Oct 17 '16 at 19:55
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"I cannot forget the follies and vices of others so soon as I ought, nor their offences against myself. . . . My temper would perhaps be called resentful. My good opinion once lost is lost for ever." (Mr. Darcy in Jane Austen's Pride and Prejudice; emphasis added)
– 1006a
Oct 17 '16 at 20:07
If the lack of forgiveness is more due to stubbornness than to the lack of capacity for forgiveness, then perhapsintransigencecould be used here.
– Hank D
Oct 17 '16 at 20:31
@EdwinAshworth Make *Hard-heartedness' and answer and I'll accept it. Of the suggestions I have so far, I think that one best fits what I'm after.
– Thomas Myron
Oct 17 '16 at 21:13
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Not pigheaded or obstinate?
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Oct 17 '16 at 21:21
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I'm developing a novel, and I'm having a hard time describing a major characteristic of the main character. We'll call him Dan for the moment.
There was another person (we'll call him/her "Francis" for now), who did something bad to Dan. Dan cannot forgive Francis for this action. Time has gone by, and Francis has apologized for the action, and is ready to make up. Dan however, remains stubbornly holding onto his ___. That's the word I need. 'Unforgivingness'.
It's more than simply not forgiving someone. It's more active than that; more like staying angry at them when you know it's over. Essentially the opposite of 'forgiveness'. Forgiveness means the 'act of forgiving', so the word I'm looking for would mean the 'act of consciously refusing to forgive someone'.
Example sentence:
"You drove them away, through your own ___ (unwillingness to forgive them)."
Is there a single word for this I can use?
single-word-requests
asked Oct 17 '16 at 19:49
Thomas Myron
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I'm developing a novel, and I'm having a hard time describing a major characteristic of the main character. We'll call him Dan for the moment.
There was another person (we'll call him/her "Francis" for now), who did something bad to Dan. Dan cannot forgive Francis for this action. Time has gone by, and Francis has apologized for the action, and is ready to make up. Dan however, remains stubbornly holding onto his ___. That's the word I need. 'Unforgivingness'.
It's more than simply not forgiving someone. It's more active than that; more like staying angry at them when you know it's over. Essentially the opposite of 'forgiveness'. Forgiveness means the 'act of forgiving', so the word I'm looking for would mean the 'act of consciously refusing to forgive someone'.
Example sentence:
"You drove them away, through your own ___ (unwillingness to forgive them)."
Is there a single word for this I can use?
single-word-requests
single-word-requests
asked Oct 17 '16 at 19:49
Thomas Myron
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asked Oct 17 '16 at 19:49
Thomas Myron
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asked Oct 17 '16 at 19:49
Thomas Myron
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asked Oct 17 '16 at 19:49
Thomas Myron
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asked Oct 17 '16 at 19:49
Thomas Myron
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Unwillingness to forgive is a state, rather than an event (though it may of course trigger events). / Hard-heartedness is a hypernym here. As is inclemency.
– Edwin Ashworth
Oct 17 '16 at 19:55
2
"I cannot forget the follies and vices of others so soon as I ought, nor their offences against myself. . . . My temper would perhaps be called resentful. My good opinion once lost is lost for ever." (Mr. Darcy in Jane Austen's Pride and Prejudice; emphasis added)
– 1006a
Oct 17 '16 at 20:07
If the lack of forgiveness is more due to stubbornness than to the lack of capacity for forgiveness, then perhapsintransigencecould be used here.
– Hank D
Oct 17 '16 at 20:31
@EdwinAshworth Make *Hard-heartedness' and answer and I'll accept it. Of the suggestions I have so far, I think that one best fits what I'm after.
– Thomas Myron
Oct 17 '16 at 21:13
1
Not pigheaded or obstinate?
– stevesliva
Oct 17 '16 at 21:21
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Unwillingness to forgive is a state, rather than an event (though it may of course trigger events). / Hard-heartedness is a hypernym here. As is inclemency.
– Edwin Ashworth
Oct 17 '16 at 19:55
2
"I cannot forget the follies and vices of others so soon as I ought, nor their offences against myself. . . . My temper would perhaps be called resentful. My good opinion once lost is lost for ever." (Mr. Darcy in Jane Austen's Pride and Prejudice; emphasis added)
– 1006a
Oct 17 '16 at 20:07
If the lack of forgiveness is more due to stubbornness than to the lack of capacity for forgiveness, then perhapsintransigencecould be used here.
– Hank D
Oct 17 '16 at 20:31
@EdwinAshworth Make *Hard-heartedness' and answer and I'll accept it. Of the suggestions I have so far, I think that one best fits what I'm after.
– Thomas Myron
Oct 17 '16 at 21:13
1
Not pigheaded or obstinate?
– stevesliva
Oct 17 '16 at 21:21
1
1
Unwillingness to forgive is a state, rather than an event (though it may of course trigger events). / Hard-heartedness is a hypernym here. As is inclemency.
– Edwin Ashworth
Oct 17 '16 at 19:55
Unwillingness to forgive is a state, rather than an event (though it may of course trigger events). / Hard-heartedness is a hypernym here. As is inclemency.
– Edwin Ashworth
Oct 17 '16 at 19:55
2
2
"I cannot forget the follies and vices of others so soon as I ought, nor their offences against myself. . . . My temper would perhaps be called resentful. My good opinion once lost is lost for ever." (Mr. Darcy in Jane Austen's Pride and Prejudice; emphasis added)
– 1006a
Oct 17 '16 at 20:07
"I cannot forget the follies and vices of others so soon as I ought, nor their offences against myself. . . . My temper would perhaps be called resentful. My good opinion once lost is lost for ever." (Mr. Darcy in Jane Austen's Pride and Prejudice; emphasis added)
– 1006a
Oct 17 '16 at 20:07
If the lack of forgiveness is more due to stubbornness than to the lack of capacity for forgiveness, then perhaps
intransigence could be used here.– Hank D
Oct 17 '16 at 20:31
If the lack of forgiveness is more due to stubbornness than to the lack of capacity for forgiveness, then perhaps
intransigence could be used here.– Hank D
Oct 17 '16 at 20:31
@EdwinAshworth Make *Hard-heartedness' and answer and I'll accept it. Of the suggestions I have so far, I think that one best fits what I'm after.
– Thomas Myron
Oct 17 '16 at 21:13
@EdwinAshworth Make *Hard-heartedness' and answer and I'll accept it. Of the suggestions I have so far, I think that one best fits what I'm after.
– Thomas Myron
Oct 17 '16 at 21:13
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1
Not pigheaded or obstinate?
– stevesliva
Oct 17 '16 at 21:21
Not pigheaded or obstinate?
– stevesliva
Oct 17 '16 at 21:21
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The word that comes to my mind for literally referring to being incapable to forgive is implacability, the quality of being impossible to placate or unable to be appeased.
But in your first sentence, I'd go with resentment and in the second, implacability:
Dan however, remains stubbornly holding onto his resentment.
You drove them away, through your own implacability.
answered Oct 17 '16 at 20:02
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Not a property of Dan, so not exactly what you are asking for, but you might be able to use "grudge":
...stubbornly holding onto his grudge.
answered Oct 17 '16 at 20:03
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Why not simply "unforgiving"?
As in, "Dan, however, remains unforgiving."
answered Oct 17 '16 at 21:48
Dr H
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I need a noun though. I'm fairly certain that's an adjective as it's used. I need a word that could fit in my example sentence.
– Thomas Myron
Oct 17 '16 at 22:09
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@ThomasMyron: Merriam-Webster offers unforgivingness as the noun form.
– jxh
Oct 17 '16 at 23:35
Fair enough, I guess. In my experience, though, if there isn't a specific word to fit the precise context desired, or the word is extremely obscure or archaic, it can be an indication that the existing sentence is awkward, and could probably stand to be re-worded to enhance readability and understanding.
– Dr H
Oct 19 '16 at 0:01
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I'll suggest VENGEFULNESS or VINDICTIVENESS
vin·dic·tive
vin-ˈdik-tiv
adjective
: having or showing a desire to hurt someone who has hurt or caused problems for you
answered Oct 18 '16 at 0:00
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Close, but Dan isn't really trying to hurt Francis. He just refuses to forgive Francis.
– Thomas Myron
Oct 18 '16 at 0:09
That's only if you construe the word HURT as being restricted to physical harm. What about the emotional imbalance and mental torture you get from knowing that your friend, with whom you had a disagreement and to whom you have made several reconciliatory propositions, has refused to hand out the olive branch?. I will be HURT if my Bosom friend refuses to forgive me in spite of my frenetic efforts at making up. Cheers.
– rhapsomatrics
Oct 18 '16 at 6:25
Sure, Dan's actions might cause hurt, but that's not his intention. That's not why he's not forgiving. There is a different reason entirely. Vindictive indicates that he's not forgiving simply to hurt the other person. At least to me.
– Thomas Myron
Oct 18 '16 at 6:33
I like your line of thought. It is intellectually stimulating.
– rhapsomatrics
Oct 18 '16 at 6:38
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– Andrew Leach♦
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Blame or grudge may be fitting. Hard heartedness can stop the reciprocol healing process of forgiveness. He has basically judged Dan not worthy of forgiveness at this time.
answered Apr 29 at 7:41
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hard-heartedness MW Dict
lacking in sympathetic understanding : unfeeling, pitiless
Or just plain OBSTINATE!
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The word that comes to my mind for literally referring to being incapable to forgive is implacability, the quality of being impossible to placate or unable to be appeased.
But in your first sentence, I'd go with resentment and in the second, implacability:
Dan however, remains stubbornly holding onto his resentment.
You drove them away, through your own implacability.
answered Oct 17 '16 at 20:02
developerwjk
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The word that comes to my mind for literally referring to being incapable to forgive is implacability, the quality of being impossible to placate or unable to be appeased.
But in your first sentence, I'd go with resentment and in the second, implacability:
Dan however, remains stubbornly holding onto his resentment.
You drove them away, through your own implacability.
answered Oct 17 '16 at 20:02
developerwjk
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The word that comes to my mind for literally referring to being incapable to forgive is implacability, the quality of being impossible to placate or unable to be appeased.
But in your first sentence, I'd go with resentment and in the second, implacability:
Dan however, remains stubbornly holding onto his resentment.
You drove them away, through your own implacability.
answered Oct 17 '16 at 20:02
developerwjk
38215
The word that comes to my mind for literally referring to being incapable to forgive is implacability, the quality of being impossible to placate or unable to be appeased.
But in your first sentence, I'd go with resentment and in the second, implacability:
Dan however, remains stubbornly holding onto his resentment.
You drove them away, through your own implacability.
answered Oct 17 '16 at 20:02
developerwjk
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answered Oct 17 '16 at 20:02
developerwjk
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answered Oct 17 '16 at 20:02
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answered Oct 17 '16 at 20:02
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Not a property of Dan, so not exactly what you are asking for, but you might be able to use "grudge":
...stubbornly holding onto his grudge.
answered Oct 17 '16 at 20:03
TonyK
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Not a property of Dan, so not exactly what you are asking for, but you might be able to use "grudge":
...stubbornly holding onto his grudge.
answered Oct 17 '16 at 20:03
TonyK
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Not a property of Dan, so not exactly what you are asking for, but you might be able to use "grudge":
...stubbornly holding onto his grudge.
answered Oct 17 '16 at 20:03
TonyK
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Not a property of Dan, so not exactly what you are asking for, but you might be able to use "grudge":
...stubbornly holding onto his grudge.
answered Oct 17 '16 at 20:03
TonyK
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answered Oct 17 '16 at 20:03
TonyK
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answered Oct 17 '16 at 20:03
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answered Oct 17 '16 at 20:03
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Why not simply "unforgiving"?
As in, "Dan, however, remains unforgiving."
answered Oct 17 '16 at 21:48
Dr H
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I need a noun though. I'm fairly certain that's an adjective as it's used. I need a word that could fit in my example sentence.
– Thomas Myron
Oct 17 '16 at 22:09
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@ThomasMyron: Merriam-Webster offers unforgivingness as the noun form.
– jxh
Oct 17 '16 at 23:35
Fair enough, I guess. In my experience, though, if there isn't a specific word to fit the precise context desired, or the word is extremely obscure or archaic, it can be an indication that the existing sentence is awkward, and could probably stand to be re-worded to enhance readability and understanding.
– Dr H
Oct 19 '16 at 0:01
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Why not simply "unforgiving"?
As in, "Dan, however, remains unforgiving."
answered Oct 17 '16 at 21:48
Dr H
1634
I need a noun though. I'm fairly certain that's an adjective as it's used. I need a word that could fit in my example sentence.
– Thomas Myron
Oct 17 '16 at 22:09
1
@ThomasMyron: Merriam-Webster offers unforgivingness as the noun form.
– jxh
Oct 17 '16 at 23:35
Fair enough, I guess. In my experience, though, if there isn't a specific word to fit the precise context desired, or the word is extremely obscure or archaic, it can be an indication that the existing sentence is awkward, and could probably stand to be re-worded to enhance readability and understanding.
– Dr H
Oct 19 '16 at 0:01
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2
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up vote
2
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Why not simply "unforgiving"?
As in, "Dan, however, remains unforgiving."
answered Oct 17 '16 at 21:48
Dr H
1634
Why not simply "unforgiving"?
As in, "Dan, however, remains unforgiving."
answered Oct 17 '16 at 21:48
Dr H
1634
answered Oct 17 '16 at 21:48
Dr H
1634
answered Oct 17 '16 at 21:48
Dr H
1634
answered Oct 17 '16 at 21:48
Dr H
1634
1634
I need a noun though. I'm fairly certain that's an adjective as it's used. I need a word that could fit in my example sentence.
– Thomas Myron
Oct 17 '16 at 22:09
1
@ThomasMyron: Merriam-Webster offers unforgivingness as the noun form.
– jxh
Oct 17 '16 at 23:35
Fair enough, I guess. In my experience, though, if there isn't a specific word to fit the precise context desired, or the word is extremely obscure or archaic, it can be an indication that the existing sentence is awkward, and could probably stand to be re-worded to enhance readability and understanding.
– Dr H
Oct 19 '16 at 0:01
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I need a noun though. I'm fairly certain that's an adjective as it's used. I need a word that could fit in my example sentence.
– Thomas Myron
Oct 17 '16 at 22:09
1
@ThomasMyron: Merriam-Webster offers unforgivingness as the noun form.
– jxh
Oct 17 '16 at 23:35
Fair enough, I guess. In my experience, though, if there isn't a specific word to fit the precise context desired, or the word is extremely obscure or archaic, it can be an indication that the existing sentence is awkward, and could probably stand to be re-worded to enhance readability and understanding.
– Dr H
Oct 19 '16 at 0:01
I need a noun though. I'm fairly certain that's an adjective as it's used. I need a word that could fit in my example sentence.
– Thomas Myron
Oct 17 '16 at 22:09
I need a noun though. I'm fairly certain that's an adjective as it's used. I need a word that could fit in my example sentence.
– Thomas Myron
Oct 17 '16 at 22:09
1
1
@ThomasMyron: Merriam-Webster offers unforgivingness as the noun form.
– jxh
Oct 17 '16 at 23:35
@ThomasMyron: Merriam-Webster offers unforgivingness as the noun form.
– jxh
Oct 17 '16 at 23:35
Fair enough, I guess. In my experience, though, if there isn't a specific word to fit the precise context desired, or the word is extremely obscure or archaic, it can be an indication that the existing sentence is awkward, and could probably stand to be re-worded to enhance readability and understanding.
– Dr H
Oct 19 '16 at 0:01
Fair enough, I guess. In my experience, though, if there isn't a specific word to fit the precise context desired, or the word is extremely obscure or archaic, it can be an indication that the existing sentence is awkward, and could probably stand to be re-worded to enhance readability and understanding.
– Dr H
Oct 19 '16 at 0:01
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I'll suggest VENGEFULNESS or VINDICTIVENESS
vin·dic·tive
vin-ˈdik-tiv
adjective
: having or showing a desire to hurt someone who has hurt or caused problems for you
answered Oct 18 '16 at 0:00
rhapsomatrics
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Close, but Dan isn't really trying to hurt Francis. He just refuses to forgive Francis.
– Thomas Myron
Oct 18 '16 at 0:09
That's only if you construe the word HURT as being restricted to physical harm. What about the emotional imbalance and mental torture you get from knowing that your friend, with whom you had a disagreement and to whom you have made several reconciliatory propositions, has refused to hand out the olive branch?. I will be HURT if my Bosom friend refuses to forgive me in spite of my frenetic efforts at making up. Cheers.
– rhapsomatrics
Oct 18 '16 at 6:25
Sure, Dan's actions might cause hurt, but that's not his intention. That's not why he's not forgiving. There is a different reason entirely. Vindictive indicates that he's not forgiving simply to hurt the other person. At least to me.
– Thomas Myron
Oct 18 '16 at 6:33
I like your line of thought. It is intellectually stimulating.
– rhapsomatrics
Oct 18 '16 at 6:38
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This is obviously copied from somewhere. Please add an attribution in plain text (with a link if possible).
– Andrew Leach♦
Apr 30 at 20:59
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I'll suggest VENGEFULNESS or VINDICTIVENESS
vin·dic·tive
vin-ˈdik-tiv
adjective
: having or showing a desire to hurt someone who has hurt or caused problems for you
answered Oct 18 '16 at 0:00
rhapsomatrics
33616
Close, but Dan isn't really trying to hurt Francis. He just refuses to forgive Francis.
– Thomas Myron
Oct 18 '16 at 0:09
That's only if you construe the word HURT as being restricted to physical harm. What about the emotional imbalance and mental torture you get from knowing that your friend, with whom you had a disagreement and to whom you have made several reconciliatory propositions, has refused to hand out the olive branch?. I will be HURT if my Bosom friend refuses to forgive me in spite of my frenetic efforts at making up. Cheers.
– rhapsomatrics
Oct 18 '16 at 6:25
Sure, Dan's actions might cause hurt, but that's not his intention. That's not why he's not forgiving. There is a different reason entirely. Vindictive indicates that he's not forgiving simply to hurt the other person. At least to me.
– Thomas Myron
Oct 18 '16 at 6:33
I like your line of thought. It is intellectually stimulating.
– rhapsomatrics
Oct 18 '16 at 6:38
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This is obviously copied from somewhere. Please add an attribution in plain text (with a link if possible).
– Andrew Leach♦
Apr 30 at 20:59
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I'll suggest VENGEFULNESS or VINDICTIVENESS
vin·dic·tive
vin-ˈdik-tiv
adjective
: having or showing a desire to hurt someone who has hurt or caused problems for you
answered Oct 18 '16 at 0:00
rhapsomatrics
33616
I'll suggest VENGEFULNESS or VINDICTIVENESS
vin·dic·tive
vin-ˈdik-tiv
adjective
: having or showing a desire to hurt someone who has hurt or caused problems for you
answered Oct 18 '16 at 0:00
rhapsomatrics
33616
answered Oct 18 '16 at 0:00
rhapsomatrics
33616
answered Oct 18 '16 at 0:00
rhapsomatrics
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answered Oct 18 '16 at 0:00
rhapsomatrics
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33616
Close, but Dan isn't really trying to hurt Francis. He just refuses to forgive Francis.
– Thomas Myron
Oct 18 '16 at 0:09
That's only if you construe the word HURT as being restricted to physical harm. What about the emotional imbalance and mental torture you get from knowing that your friend, with whom you had a disagreement and to whom you have made several reconciliatory propositions, has refused to hand out the olive branch?. I will be HURT if my Bosom friend refuses to forgive me in spite of my frenetic efforts at making up. Cheers.
– rhapsomatrics
Oct 18 '16 at 6:25
Sure, Dan's actions might cause hurt, but that's not his intention. That's not why he's not forgiving. There is a different reason entirely. Vindictive indicates that he's not forgiving simply to hurt the other person. At least to me.
– Thomas Myron
Oct 18 '16 at 6:33
I like your line of thought. It is intellectually stimulating.
– rhapsomatrics
Oct 18 '16 at 6:38
1
This is obviously copied from somewhere. Please add an attribution in plain text (with a link if possible).
– Andrew Leach♦
Apr 30 at 20:59
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Close, but Dan isn't really trying to hurt Francis. He just refuses to forgive Francis.
– Thomas Myron
Oct 18 '16 at 0:09
That's only if you construe the word HURT as being restricted to physical harm. What about the emotional imbalance and mental torture you get from knowing that your friend, with whom you had a disagreement and to whom you have made several reconciliatory propositions, has refused to hand out the olive branch?. I will be HURT if my Bosom friend refuses to forgive me in spite of my frenetic efforts at making up. Cheers.
– rhapsomatrics
Oct 18 '16 at 6:25
Sure, Dan's actions might cause hurt, but that's not his intention. That's not why he's not forgiving. There is a different reason entirely. Vindictive indicates that he's not forgiving simply to hurt the other person. At least to me.
– Thomas Myron
Oct 18 '16 at 6:33
I like your line of thought. It is intellectually stimulating.
– rhapsomatrics
Oct 18 '16 at 6:38
1
This is obviously copied from somewhere. Please add an attribution in plain text (with a link if possible).
– Andrew Leach♦
Apr 30 at 20:59
Close, but Dan isn't really trying to hurt Francis. He just refuses to forgive Francis.
– Thomas Myron
Oct 18 '16 at 0:09
Close, but Dan isn't really trying to hurt Francis. He just refuses to forgive Francis.
– Thomas Myron
Oct 18 '16 at 0:09
That's only if you construe the word HURT as being restricted to physical harm. What about the emotional imbalance and mental torture you get from knowing that your friend, with whom you had a disagreement and to whom you have made several reconciliatory propositions, has refused to hand out the olive branch?. I will be HURT if my Bosom friend refuses to forgive me in spite of my frenetic efforts at making up. Cheers.
– rhapsomatrics
Oct 18 '16 at 6:25
That's only if you construe the word HURT as being restricted to physical harm. What about the emotional imbalance and mental torture you get from knowing that your friend, with whom you had a disagreement and to whom you have made several reconciliatory propositions, has refused to hand out the olive branch?. I will be HURT if my Bosom friend refuses to forgive me in spite of my frenetic efforts at making up. Cheers.
– rhapsomatrics
Oct 18 '16 at 6:25
Sure, Dan's actions might cause hurt, but that's not his intention. That's not why he's not forgiving. There is a different reason entirely. Vindictive indicates that he's not forgiving simply to hurt the other person. At least to me.
– Thomas Myron
Oct 18 '16 at 6:33
Sure, Dan's actions might cause hurt, but that's not his intention. That's not why he's not forgiving. There is a different reason entirely. Vindictive indicates that he's not forgiving simply to hurt the other person. At least to me.
– Thomas Myron
Oct 18 '16 at 6:33
I like your line of thought. It is intellectually stimulating.
– rhapsomatrics
Oct 18 '16 at 6:38
I like your line of thought. It is intellectually stimulating.
– rhapsomatrics
Oct 18 '16 at 6:38
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Blame or grudge may be fitting. Hard heartedness can stop the reciprocol healing process of forgiveness. He has basically judged Dan not worthy of forgiveness at this time.
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Blame or grudge may be fitting. Hard heartedness can stop the reciprocol healing process of forgiveness. He has basically judged Dan not worthy of forgiveness at this time.
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Blame or grudge may be fitting. Hard heartedness can stop the reciprocol healing process of forgiveness. He has basically judged Dan not worthy of forgiveness at this time.
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hard-heartedness MW Dict
lacking in sympathetic understanding : unfeeling, pitiless
Or just plain OBSTINATE!
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hard-heartedness MW Dict
lacking in sympathetic understanding : unfeeling, pitiless
Or just plain OBSTINATE!
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hard-heartedness MW Dict
lacking in sympathetic understanding : unfeeling, pitiless
Or just plain OBSTINATE!
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hard-heartedness MW Dict
lacking in sympathetic understanding : unfeeling, pitiless
Or just plain OBSTINATE!
answered Apr 29 at 13:42
lbf
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answered Apr 29 at 13:42
lbf
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answered Apr 29 at 13:42
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answered Apr 29 at 13:42
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Unwillingness to forgive is a state, rather than an event (though it may of course trigger events). / Hard-heartedness is a hypernym here. As is inclemency.
– Edwin Ashworth
Oct 17 '16 at 19:55
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"I cannot forget the follies and vices of others so soon as I ought, nor their offences against myself. . . . My temper would perhaps be called resentful. My good opinion once lost is lost for ever." (Mr. Darcy in Jane Austen's Pride and Prejudice; emphasis added)
– 1006a
Oct 17 '16 at 20:07
If the lack of forgiveness is more due to stubbornness than to the lack of capacity for forgiveness, then perhaps
intransigencecould be used here.– Hank D
Oct 17 '16 at 20:31
@EdwinAshworth Make *Hard-heartedness' and answer and I'll accept it. Of the suggestions I have so far, I think that one best fits what I'm after.
– Thomas Myron
Oct 17 '16 at 21:13
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Not pigheaded or obstinate?
– stevesliva
Oct 17 '16 at 21:21